Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed…” (James 5:16a KJV).
According to this verse there is healing for us when we confess our faults to one another. For instance, when we sin against someone we should confess that fault to the offended person and seek reconciliation. By doing so healing comes to the relationship and to our soul. In a broader application, it is also good to confess our faults (to people in general) in the sense that we are open and transparent. This too brings healing to our soul.
But this verse DOES NOT MEAN that you are obligated to tell JUST ANYBODY all the sins that you are wrestling with. That can backfire on you. You confess your faults to people you CAN TRUST; safe people. With ‘safe people’ in your life you can reveal the things about yourself and family that make you human. And if you have someone that you can reveal your humanity to, it brings healing. That’s why you should make every effort at making CLOSE FRIENDS; safe people.
There are some people that you NEVER want to confess your faults to because they are not safe. They are blabber mouths. The next thing you know they will be babbling it all over the place; even on Facebook or their blog. Some misguided souls (control freaks) believe that you are obligated to air your dirty laundry to them, citing the above verse as a proof text. Beware of such people. They are dangerous. They are toxic. They are controlling. You don’t want them as friends, and you don’t want to be in a small group with them either.
A safe person is the kind of friend who sees your nakedness and they love you anyway; bad hair, bad breath, warts and all. “Love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8). A safe person is the one who sticks very close to you when your weaknesses show up. They simply choose to COVER that weakness by NOT REPEATING IT. A safe person is someone who overlooks things that others love to whisper about. He doesn’t rub it in, he rubs it out.
You know who the safe people are in your life. Trust them.