When it comes to discipleship, whose responsibility is it - the church or the individual? The responsibility rests with both. Unfortunately, a lot of people believe the responsibility rests solely with the church. The expectation is that the pastor does all the feeding while the people do all the eating. This is not only unrealistic and impractical, it is unbiblical. Sure, the church has a responsibility to “feed the sheep” (John 15:17-21), but the people also have the responsibility to feed themselves, be teachers, and go on to perfection (Hebrews 5:12-14; 6:1-3).
The goal of discipleship is to slowly make believers stand on their own two feet. That is, the church is responsible for helping believers grow to a certain point. After that, they should feed themselves and focus on helping the church with its mission.
To do that, expectations must be right sized. Growing Christians must be taught that the church and its leaders cannot and will not do everything for them indefinitely, and at some point they must embrace the habits of spiritual growth for themselves.