Sunday, June 15, 2014

A Historical and Healthier View of Courtship

I hardly know where to begin.

Actually, I do.

True courtship is when you invest in a relationship to determine whether or not to grow into intimacy and commitment, with a view toward marriage.  Sex is at the end of that process, not at the beginning.  Sex is the result of courtship, not the commencement of it.

When sex comes at the end of courtship, that is, once a lifetime commitment has been made, then the wonder of mutual discovery and exploration begins, further cementing the relationship.

Anyone who has the most rudimentary knowledge of relational health and development knows that sex at the start of a relationship – particularly for the young and immature – can overwhelm things, cloud judgment, and stunt the actual development of that relationship.

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