No one wants to be used. No one invites their friends to church to help the pastor fulfill his dream. No one invites their friends to church to prop up one of the programs. No one invites their friends to church to just to build a bigger church. Most people come to church because they are on a journey of their own - they are focused on their own needs, brokenness, or spiritual lives.
Once I gave up the dream of pastoring a bigger church and stopped striving to make it happen, I found myself enjoying the ministry again and truly loving people. It changed everything. Ironically, once I began focusing on the people I had, rather than the ones I wanted to reach, they started bringing their friends to church to get the same kind of help.... and we ended up with a good sized church anyway.
The care, warmth, and support that is experienced by our member’s leads to conversations outside to the church with irreligious people, who then are invited to PCC.
It’s a lesson I’ll never forget.